The engagement is the statement of a man of his desire to marry a particular woman. If she accepts the engagement with her guardian, the engagement is legitimate.
The law of the engagement is istishab (recommended) because the Prophet Muhammad was engaged with Aisha and Hafsah. ra.
The law of the engagement is istishab (recommended) because the Prophet Muhammad was engaged with Aisha and Hafsah. ra.
nor should woo women who are in the waiting period, which was good divorce raj'i with pinagngan overt or satire / allegory. Because woo women who are still in the prescribed period sometimes encourage women to lie on the count iddahnya.2. She has not accepted the proposal of others.Anyone may not apply as long as he knows that women will dilamarnya already accepted the proposal of others. the wisdom of such restrictions is to avoid the hostility between the
two sides, both of the women with the first applicant, as well as the
male applicants first with the second applicant.However,
if the first proposal is still no decision has been accepted or
rejected by the women, the scholars disagree whether another person may
file a proposal. Most
of the scholars are allowed, by reason of the silence of women or not
to answer the proposal can be assumed as a subtle rejection of the first
proposal. It is based on the story of Fatima bint Qais. Prophet proposed to her to Usamah bin Zaid. Yet Muawiya and Abu Jahl already ask for her hand in advance, but there are no firm answers from Fatima.
While most other scholars did not allow the proposal to the woman during no firm answer from the woman on the first proposal of either rejection or acceptance. And a second opinion this is more appropriate to be accepted in order not to create hostility, while the story of Fatima on by this group did not show the ability absolutely, because the Prophet only recently filed cues are interpreted by people as a proposal, so that the story can not be proof / arguments of permissibility the proposal.
Requirement legitimate engagements are:
1. Women are not being forbidden to marry syar'i and able and well worth doing contract.
Under these conditions, one can not apply for women who are forbidden to marry, both permanent and unrelated muhrim sementara.diantaranya should not propose another man's wife and her aunt wife. Likewise, should not be used to woo women to his fifth wife if his four wives are still there.
1. Women are not being forbidden to marry syar'i and able and well worth doing contract.
Under these conditions, one can not apply for women who are forbidden to marry, both permanent and unrelated muhrim sementara.diantaranya should not propose another man's wife and her aunt wife. Likewise, should not be used to woo women to his fifth wife if his four wives are still there.
The
engagement is a term used in a society that means that someone has tied
an appointment with another person with the intention of getting
married later. In
Western countries, "betrothed" or engagement, can last for many years
with no certainty to get married and go further without any agreement. During the engagement, the couple should have fun, including sexual intercourse. This is not surprising in the life of today's society.Sexual
intercourse with a person especially with her fiance is a normal, even
though it may cause sexual prnyakit diseases, pregnant outside of
marriage, a family with one parent (singgle parent) and unnatural sexual
behavior that is common we see today. As
an incorrect understanding in today's society, engagement only a "trial
relationship" between pairs of men and women before marriage or a love
relationship or a mere momentary relationship, sometimes breaking up and
sometimes together again. Everything just becomes part of the "relationship test" it, without any agreement being violated.
Before woo(meminang), a man must see women who will groom the face and two palms sahaja. And vice versa in order to know the real situation in order to be able to keep both the will and the purpose of each. In the opinion of jumhur ulamak, look at women with the aim of proposing specific only to the tread face and two hands. Because by looking at the face can be seen as well as the beauty expression face as to the prospective wife or vice versa. While looking at both palms aims in order to determine the fertility of the body. S.A.W word of Allah, meaning:
"If one of you proposes marriage than women so innocent so long as it saw the woman sahaja solely to ask for her hand even though he did not know".
"If one of you proposes marriage than women so innocent so long as it saw the woman sahaja solely to ask for her hand even though he did not know".
No
present mother or father or the party receiving the engagement no
longer look at matters relationship with God as the main staple as the
main founder sesebuah domestic happiness. Whenever
the course of majlis merisik, the main cases that will be asked are
things mundane luxuries only as a condition that will prosper and
strengthen household. It may be seen so clearly on this day. Most parents put luxuries as a determinant of happiness and well-being for their children if they were married later. Parents may not refuse the man's proposal a person solely because darjat low. Instead,
it must reject his proposal if someone be noted that in respect of
depraved men like prayer or pleasure-loving, gambling even though he had
the rank and wealth. Bermaksudnya S.A.W Prophet once said:"Anybody who would mengahwinkan her with a wicked man then in fact he had decided silaturrahim with his son."
Fiance law in IslamAccording
to most scholars, fiance categorized as preliminary or preparation
before marriage and do khitbah or proposal that bind a woman before
marriage law is permissible (allowed), during khitbah requirements are
met. Fiance
or khitbah allowed in Islam because the purpose of making a proposal or
fiancée merely know the willingness on the part of women who groom as
well as the promise that he will marry the woman. As the following hadith:If one of you want to woo a woman, and being able to see anything from
him who encouraged him to marry her, then do it. "(HR.Imam Ahmad and
Abu Dawood)The
hadith explains that Islam allowed men to do the proposal to a woman
and tied off the engagement, but if this is appropriate Islamic Shari'a.
After
carrying her engagement remains lawful for the man and the two are not
allowed to see each other, get together or do things that are forbidden
to plunge in the act of adultery (Zina read in Islam). This is in accordance with the compilation of Islamic law Article
11 about the legal consequences of khitbah or fiancé who states that:
The proposal poses no legal effect and the parties are free to decide the relationship making a proposal.
Freedom broke making a proposal made by the good manners accordance with the guidance that local customs, so keep terbina harmony and mutual respectThe law provides for an engagement gift
The proposal poses no legal effect and the parties are free to decide the relationship making a proposal.
Freedom broke making a proposal made by the good manners accordance with the guidance that local customs, so keep terbina harmony and mutual respectThe law provides for an engagement gift
When engaged, we often hear the term exchange rings and how the ruling in Islam? Actually
habits ring exchange could be just a habit but a man is allowed to give
a gift or a souvenir to his fiancee or termed urf. If in the future the men off the engagement or courtship, then he is not allowed to take back the gift. As the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad which states thatIt
is not lawful for a Muslim man to give sesutau to others and then ask
for it back, unless the provision father to son "(HR. Ahmad al-irba'ati
shohihu wa al-Tirmidhi Ibn Hibbaan wa wa al-Hakim)
Law cancel engagement
Fiance or proposal but promises a man who marries a woman and is the first step in preparing for a wedding. Berdsarakan that the actual engagement can be broken or canceled by either party, for example if there is a conflict in the family.
Fiance or proposal but promises a man who marries a woman and is the first step in preparing for a wedding. Berdsarakan that the actual engagement can be broken or canceled by either party, for example if there is a conflict in the family.
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